is your partner blind or sighted?

agreed. Falling in between the cracks, as easy as it might be, is something that scares the heck out of me. I'm not here to judg anyone who chooses to live like that, but personally I fear that living like that myself is a verry easy way to send myself farther down the mental health rabbithole that I'm already too far down in for comfort.
-- (ArcticMoon):
I'm sorry but how can you live like that? It's absurd. As well as not knowing how to use a washing machine. These are basic things. I'm not here to judge or anything, but this is really something that's not on my wishlist for the future.

-- (thespyde):
My wife is blind and I'm fine with that. She also has twenty-four-hour assistance, which I'm not so fond of, but something that has to be done. Since I can't use stove, oven, clothes washer and such, it's good we have sighted help for those things. Yeah, complete privacy is quite impossible but that's how it is.

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The washer and oven have touch screens and the stove has a glass top that some blind people can use but I cannot.

Now, without further ado, back to topic.

K. Find good public transport in small norwegian cities, mis. You have to inform yourself a little right?
-- (ArcticMoon):
I don't know but I get around fine by using public transport, even with blind individuals joining me. What's the problem?

-- (marchoffmann):
My post might be a little out of place, but generally speaking, unless love totaly loses it which I doubt, for me, having a fully blind partner wouldn't be benefitial at least. Not saying it's a standard directly, but in real life I'm totaly not around blind people, and as I can't drive a car and won't be for years ahead, it'd be practical having a sighted girlfriend who could do so, as paying taxis all the way to get around isn't the most handy and comfortable solution what so ever. Speaking of getting around, that'd be a thing too. About kitchen stuff, I don't worry to much. I've heard lots about blind girls being smart enough in the kitchens and household, but then again that's not one of the values I care about to much especially nowadays. But that'd probably be offtopic and for another time. Just wanted to state my opinion, if it ever comes to a relationship and how it might end up.

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blindy arrogance.
hahahahahahahahaha.
you're all absurd, arctic moon's comment is the only one worth reading.

You guys seem to have a lot of trouble with stepping out of your comfort zone, tipical of everyone taking part in this conversation. I don't want to judge but I have to judge. I can't say I'll ever be a cook or anything like that, that's because I've tried a lot of things and I won't have the time to make lunch every day, but that doesn't mean I won't step out of my comfort zone to do something I'm not comfortable with, same goes for public transport, if it's not available, you find other means to travel. Otherwise just keep living in your misery and please don't complain here. I won't name the individual, but some posts in this thread make me want to puke, I have to live with the fact that my abilities are often misjudged because of poor souls like this.
I'm often embarrassed that I even have accounts on such platforms, yuk!

If you have goals, you must do everything in your power to achieve them, even if that means doing something you really don't want to do. burnt fingers, a messy kitchen, buying products that don't work and then having to sell them, the anxiety of traveling alone on a public transport, that is all coladeral damage. Trust me once you get past this step you'll literally feel like you're a newborn baby.

So a note about public transport:
I understand that public transport is pretty good in most parts of Europe, but that isn't the case everywhere, namely for people in the US, some parts of Germany, Australia, apparently Rural Norway, in the Caribbean and a whole bunch of other places. It's not to say that Public Transit doesn't exist in these places, it's just that they're either unreliable meaning that you can't depend on it to get where you need to go in a timely fashion, or the coverage is limited, meaning that you won't be able to transit to where you might need to go.
Ride share may also be an option, but it's often significantly more expensive as compared to someone making the same drive in a car (Obviously including the cost of fuel/electricity). Being blind is genuinely unpleasant in a lot of places purely because of this. Like I said, I understand that many places in Europe in particular have very well-developed bus, train and tram networks, and that's realy based but that isn't available to everyone.
Lets take myself for example. I live in Suburban San Fernando. If I wanted to get to school or a job in Port of Spain as most Southerners do, without a car you have to leave the house at 4:30 just so that you can catch a cab to San Fernando after waiting maybe 20 minutes at minimum, usually more. The bus is usually prompt but there are chances of it failing. You then get to Port of Spain and you go through the same ordeal of waiting for another taxi to take you to your final destination, only the difference is the taxis are usually all fulled up by now since it's rush hour and they likely picked up a full trip before you did.
Where as with a car I literally have the freedom to leave at least an hour and a half later, and I don't even have to waste that extra time of going straight into the city since I live very close to the highway itself.
So yeah. Public transit is doable, and an unfortunate aspect of life, but I could see why someone rather prefers not to deal with it.

Lol bro if you can't even botter to actually read and understand the reasoning of people maybe not having an account for you would be better indeed. Read and think before opening your mouth, or in this case type garbage.
-- (Urh2006):
You guys seem to have a lot of trouble with stepping out of your comfort zone, tipical of everyone taking part in this conversation. I don't want to judge but I have to judge. I can't say I'll ever be a cook or anything like that, that's because I've tried a lot of things and I won't have the time to make lunch every day, but that doesn't mean I won't step out of my comfort zone to do something I'm not comfortable with, same goes for public transport, if it's not available, you find other means to travel. Otherwise just keep living in your misery and please don't complain here. I won't name the individual, but some posts in this thread make me want to puke, I have to live with the fact that my abilities are often misjudged because of poor souls like this.
I'm often embarrassed that I even have accounts on such platforms, yuk!

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I know what you are talking about, as I'm from a little town as well. But it's not impossible, or at least, if you try.


-- (marchoffmann):
K. Find good public transport in small norwegian cities, mis. You have to inform yourself a little right?
-- (ArcticMoon):
I don't know but I get around fine by using public transport, even with blind individuals joining me. What's the problem?

-- (marchoffmann):
My post might be a little out of place, but generally speaking, unless love totaly loses it which I doubt, for me, having a fully blind partner wouldn't be benefitial at least. Not saying it's a standard directly, but in real life I'm totaly not around blind people, and as I can't drive a car and won't be for years ahead, it'd be practical having a sighted girlfriend who could do so, as paying taxis all the way to get around isn't the most handy and comfortable solution what so ever. Speaking of getting around, that'd be a thing too. About kitchen stuff, I don't worry to much. I've heard lots about blind girls being smart enough in the kitchens and household, but then again that's not one of the values I care about to much especially nowadays. But that'd probably be offtopic and for another time. Just wanted to state my opinion, if it ever comes to a relationship and how it might end up.

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@28 I don't even know what he's on about.

Well if I'd decide to live in Oslo. Heard the transport is decent. But again, I like this town a lot and there's no reason to move away from it. Though if I decide to studdy in the nearest bigger town in a couple years, all they have is busses driving at certain times and all the folks I know have cars they use instead. It's probably doable, but then again it's about partners not on how blind people manage their lives, which this topic seems to evolve into. All I'm trying to say is, a car driving partner would be reeeeally beneficial.

maybe, get back on topic? Thanks

What's the problem with buying one that is more accessible, though?
-- (thespyde):
The washer and oven have touch screens and the stove has a glass top that some blind people can use but I cannot.

Now, without further ado, back to topic.

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One issue is money of course. Another is that these appliances are still working and as long as she needs assistance I won't be needed to do any cooking or washing. I doubt she'll be healed miraculously.

When I was a bachelor and living by myself I regularly went out of my comfort zone. I have no fear of doing that.

Just out of curiosity, does your wife have any other dissability that marrits having round the clock assistance?
-- (thespyde):
One issue is money of course. Another is that these appliances are still working and as long as she needs assistance I won't be needed to do any cooking or washing. I doubt she'll be healed miraculously.

When I was a bachelor and living by myself I regularly went out of my comfort zone. I have no fear of doing that.

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She is in a wheelchair and does need assistance with many things I can't help her do. If I was needed to cook she probably wouldn't want the convenience foods I know how to prepare. I'm not much in the kitchen so it's good she has other people to do that, and the other things as well.

Public transport isn't reliable everywhere and there's no reason to attack those who can't rely on it due to their location. It is one thing to be in Berlin, Frankfurt, Hamburg, Dortmund etc, big cities, another thing is some Angermünde, Peenemünde or Göppingen, towns with so less people that having a bus twice per day is fine.

Marry a taxy driver then I guess?

-- (marchoffmann):
Well if I'd decide to live in Oslo. Heard the transport is decent. But again, I like this town a lot and there's no reason to move away from it. Though if I decide to studdy in the nearest bigger town in a couple years, all they have is busses driving at certain times and all the folks I know have cars they use instead. It's probably doable, but then again it's about partners not on how blind people manage their lives, which this topic seems to evolve into. All I'm trying to say is, a car driving partner would be reeeeally beneficial.

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What the hell?
So you use her assistance so you don't need to do anything at all in the house?
I'm sorry but this is cringe.

-- (thespyde):
One issue is money of course. Another is that these appliances are still working and as long as she needs assistance I won't be needed to do any cooking or washing. I doubt she'll be healed miraculously.

When I was a bachelor and living by myself I regularly went out of my comfort zone. I have no fear of doing that.

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She hires them and they do for both of us. I didn't come here strictly for that reason, but that's the way it turned out. I wasn't looking for a situation like this, nor do I relish the language barrier that still exists despite my long journey of efforts.