what is something that heavily bothers you and makes you feel broken.

Editted Version of Original Post from Ferre
Hi.
So I wanted to post this story in the on life and death thing, but realised it wouldn't fit.
The thing that is killing me is that I didn't know about my girlfriend's abusive ex untill I reconnected with her.
We've known each other for a total of 5 years, she wasn't fully here for 3 of them but I won't go into detail. All I will say is that when I found out about him, I wanted to help her as best as I could. We still struggle with that sometimes, when her old habits return, but I calmly try to help her.


Don't get it twisted, I'm extremely happy with her, but her habits sometimes deeply affect me, and I'm sure they do the same for herself.
If you feel comfortable, what is something that destroys you inside?
16.04.2026 06:22

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I think btw you should maybe carry out your relationship issues somewhere else than the forum. I don't know if I'd like my gf, if I had one, to just randomly post stuff like that. If she's fine with it then well, ignore me but uh, just my thoughts.

the fragility of my mental health. It's all genetic baby

It bothers me how I let the smallest stupid bullshit affect me. Like I'm always stressing about something and finding it hard to enjoy life, because even if there are no major events that might cause stress, my brain will find something to stress or get angry about anyway. I hate that.

i flinch whenever someone gets too close especially in anger. also um nice thing to wake up too i wish you would have texted me letting me know you were doing this though. i'm not mad i'm just saying because i wasn't really expecting everyone to know about all of this just a shock to me lol

It really depends on mindset, but in particular the unreasoned suffering of annimals. Mind you, I still do eat meat, but I think it's horrible just watching them being messed with without any reason, even if it just is a video. I always think to myself how genuinely innocent they are and that they eventually just want to be loved - at least for pets. Again though, it depends a lot on a daily bases, and it's not like I consume such content regularly. It's just what comes to mind when I happen to think about such.

Ehm, to be honest after such a topic, if I were your girlfriend, I'd consider breaking up.
It's not our business that she has such issues and I don't think she would have liked us to know about them. Also, holding your breath until the person returns is rather hilarious and nonsense. If you like torturing yourself, well... It's on you. It's the same thing when people scare themselves on purpose. It's their problem, sorry.

honestly i didn't know he was saying this until i read it this morning and no i did not want a bunch of people knowing

ah yes, Nothing says “I care about you” like turning someone else’s private trauma into a public discussion topic
especially when said person said that they didn't want a bunch of people knowing about it

yeah, um, nice one buddy, now everyone knows everything. This is why I don't review much about myself online anyways.

i just want everyone to know that i am ok. i have 0 contact with the person that ferre mentioned and any other person close to him. i don't want people worrying now and thinking that i'm still in harm when i have been out of it sense this past october. i'm not wanting to sound ungrateful for anybody's friendship because i truly am. just want yall to know that i'm allright and that my future is planned out and super productive and happy. i hope that i'm not sounding rude

I have many flaws, and the flaws I hate are:
- I can be very, very sensitive, especially when I'm very tired.
- I cannot take a joke very well, because I do not know if the joke is a joke or not.
- I'm a very hypocritical type of person, because I can't take jokes but I do tell jokes.
- I also don't like the fact that I overthink things either.

Congrats Ferre. Now if the abuser ex was here, he'd know for sure that you both still care. It was so damn wise really. ButcherVanity I feel you though, I went through a very similar situation but in that case it was in fact my ex who published shit about me.

guys what's the issue.
He was just expressing what hurts him.
If it hurts him, he obviously loves her.
If he didn't love and care, would it hurt him? I don't think so.

that post was written by my friend on whatsapp

i just want to personally apologize because i feel responsible (i mean it was my story to begin with that was shared) so that's why i'm just saying that i'm sorry for this becoming a huge thing. as always i'm open for questions but if you have any for me please just tell me privately. i do appreciate all the kindness though

And then people get outraged when I suggest that maybe sensitive emotional matters do not pertain to the public and should only be known to those they concern lmao.

Although you could've said it hurt you without exposing her habits, the fact they hurt you mean that you genuinely love her.
It might seem off to most people, and of course, she has every right to be upset but the fact the things you notice, especially the small ones, mean you love and care.
Next time, keep in mind though to not reveal private information so cluelessly.

ButcherVanity it isn't your issue. You just have a boyfriend who doesn't respect privacy, that's all.