is your partner blind or sighted?

@39, kinda messed up for ragging on someone for living in the kinda situation he is. Obviously if they have someone living in who cooks and cleans there's no point for him to be able to do it himself. You're also forgetting the dude is like 72 now.
I think we need to be not so judgemental when it comes to people's living situation, not everyone may have the same luxuries as you do.
Further more, this isn't a thread for criticising The Spyde.

Um, I'm 69, will be 70 in September.

Also, I have quite a few duties taking care of my wife in ways I can do so. This also lightens the load for the aforementioned assistants, who were doing all of it before I arrived. I won't itemize because that's too personal.

Thanks, Sir Charlie, you rock!

I would also consider that arctics level of cringe is probably higher than all of ours combined... Maybe she wants to have everyone in here know how great and independent she thinks she is, what do I know.
-- (Sir-Charlie):
@39, kinda messed up for ragging on someone for living in the kinda situation he is. Obviously if they have someone living in who cooks and cleans there's no point for him to be able to do it himself. You're also forgetting the dude is like 72 now.
I think we need to be not so judgemental when it comes to people's living situation, not everyone may have the same luxuries as you do.
Further more, this isn't a thread for criticising The Spyde.

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Of course, I'm not saying what he lives in is an ideal situation. What I have is not luxury either, I just want to progress and not rely on someone else in my whole life. But, maybe this counts as luxury in developed countries :D


-- (Sir-Charlie):
@39, kinda messed up for ragging on someone for living in the kinda situation he is. Obviously if they have someone living in who cooks and cleans there's no point for him to be able to do it himself. You're also forgetting the dude is like 72 now.
I think we need to be not so judgemental when it comes to people's living situation, not everyone may have the same luxuries as you do.
Further more, this isn't a thread for criticising The Spyde.

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Go find your driver lady :D

-- (marchoffmann):
I would also consider that arctics level of cringe is probably higher than all of ours combined... Maybe she wants to have everyone in here know how great and independent she thinks she is, what do I know.
-- (Sir-Charlie):
@39, kinda messed up for ragging on someone for living in the kinda situation he is. Obviously if they have someone living in who cooks and cleans there's no point for him to be able to do it himself. You're also forgetting the dude is like 72 now.
I think we need to be not so judgemental when it comes to people's living situation, not everyone may have the same luxuries as you do.
Further more, this isn't a thread for criticising The Spyde.

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I do not want to be completely independent as in most cases for blind individuals this leads to social isolation, you always need company in my opinion, but in some areas I want to do stuff on my own, my next step now is to hire a personal driver.

Absolutely. Being independent doesn't mean being alone. But noonee wants to marry a blind person who needs assistance with everything in life.

When you say everything, what do you mean? If someone can take care of the household well, but has shitty mobility, are they off the list for you? :D

Her standards are MIGHTY high, just sayin'.

Honestly I'd take the opposit: I think having great mobility is oftentimes more important tan doing all the home stuff.

Lol how about one person being good at one set of skills and the other at the other one? In this way, you could make up for each other's weaknesses? Isn't that what a relationship is supposedly about? I understand standards, but maybe let's remember people have flaws and being so perfectionistic might really exclude some fantastic people from our lives, :D

I cannot say that I know the lady, but it seems to me that she simply knows her own worth. She expresses her opinions in a blunt manner, which I find refreshing, after reading through all the posts of Americans on other social media, who seem to be always walking on eggshells.
-- (thespyde):
Her standards are MIGHTY high, just sayin'.

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I currently have no partner, but I would not choose one based on whether she is blind or not. Other factors are much more important.

Exactly.
And the fact that you are blind doesn't mean you are unable to live independently. It's just a matter of will and honestly, it also depends on the way your parents accepted your situation.
If they still think you are a child, even if you are like 25 years old, something is wrong there. I'm not saying the people who need assistance 24/7 are bad, but maybe that's all they want from life. I, personally, don't want to sit at home and rely on assistance, so I fight for my own independence.
Now I don't have a partner either, but when I did, I also didn't choose by assuming is he blind or not. He was, but I didn't mind at all.
The only thing I'll keep in mind in the future is distance. It just doesn't work if you are 2000 kilometres away from your partner.


-- (Nikolatheserb):
I currently have no partner, but I would not choose one based on whether she is blind or not. Other factors are much more important.

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Just for the record, Eva is in a wheelchair and genuinely can't do many of her personal tasks.

Very well said! If the distance is too great, and the financial situation doesn't allow in person meeting, then it is torture for both in the long run.

-- (ArcticMoon):
Exactly.
And the fact that you are blind doesn't mean you are unable to live independently. It's just a matter of will and honestly, it also depends on the way your parents accepted your situation.
If they still think you are a child, even if you are like 25 years old, something is wrong there. I'm not saying the people who need assistance 24/7 are bad, but maybe that's all they want from life. I, personally, don't want to sit at home and rely on assistance, so I fight for my own independence.
Now I don't have a partner either, but when I did, I also didn't choose by assuming is he blind or not. He was, but I didn't mind at all.
The only thing I'll keep in mind in the future is distance. It just doesn't work if you are 2000 kilometres away from your partner.


-- (Nikolatheserb):
I currently have no partner, but I would not choose one based on whether she is blind or not. Other factors are much more important.

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Excuse me for interjecting, but bluntness doesn't mean being unkind or dismissive of the person's situation or circumstance. We all are different. It's good to be sensitive towards others sometimes. For me it doesn't matter if the partner is blind or sighted. As long as I'm treated right.

Distance is also a really big issue for me.

I think that long distance relationships can work out if both partners really trust each other. All of my relationships were long distance. I mean, I always had German partners and I live in Germany, but it would have taken me many hours to reach them via public transport. I wasn't really good at traveling back then, so it was often quite hard to organize it. Some of my relationships broke because of the distance, but I'm with my boyfriend for almost a year now and we can manage it pretty well

with me, my girlfriend lives in liverpool, and when I heard we were moving there for my stepfather's job, I was super exited. Now I see her every week like 3 times and it's been amasing. Before I lived in liverpool, I didn't have much problems with the distance, accept a feeling of lonelyness sometimes but not very often.