Just wondering, for everyone who is married/dating, are they blind or sighted? And how do you feel about it?
My wife is blind and I'm fine with that. She also has twenty-four-hour assistance, which I'm not so fond of, but something that has to be done. Since I can't use stove, oven, clothes washer and such, it's good we have sighted help for those things. Yeah, complete privacy is quite impossible but that's how it is.
my girlfriend has a small amount of vision left as to where she has to read braille but still can see colors and 3d objects well.
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My post might be a little out of place, but generally speaking, unless love totaly loses it which I doubt, for me, having a fully blind partner wouldn't be benefitial at least. Not saying it's a standard directly, but in real life I'm totaly not around blind people, and as I can't drive a car and won't be for years ahead, it'd be practical having a sighted girlfriend who could do so, as paying taxis all the way to get around isn't the most handy and comfortable solution what so ever. Speaking of getting around, that'd be a thing too. About kitchen stuff, I don't worry to much. I've heard lots about blind girls being smart enough in the kitchens and household, but then again that's not one of the values I care about to much especially nowadays. But that'd probably be offtopic and for another time. Just wanted to state my opinion, if it ever comes to a relationship and how it might end up.
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My partner is completely blind. I can still see light and that stuff, but she can't. And honestly, I think it doesn't mather if your partner is blind or not. Sure, some things are different and some things might be more challenging, but love is what mathers and not the sight remaining.
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lol I wouldn't say love is all about benefit. As in between a blind girl who's a saint and a sighted girl who might not be compatible with you as a person, I'd go with the blind one, regardless of whether she can drive me around or not
also, as for me, prospective partner's got about 20-200 vision, so sertain things are harder for her to see, but she can still use her sight.
IKR, surely it's not. But tbh I get his point. Not that I would formulate it like that but I'd also prefer someone sighted, for similar reasons, and I'm not in any irl blind bubble anyways. But why botter, time will tell what god has planned for me regarding that sort of stuff.
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lol I wouldn't say love is all about benefit. As in between a blind girl who's a saint and a sighted girl who might not be compatible with you as a person, I'd go with the blind one, regardless of whether she can drive me around or not
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lol I wouldn't say love is all about benefit. As in between a blind girl who's a saint and a sighted girl who might not be compatible with you as a person, I'd go with the blind one, regardless of whether she can drive me around or not
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Right? Like tell me how else to formulate it, sighted is my preference due to many reasons. If you interpret as me only wanting benefit from it then you just didn't get the point. But here too, I'm not much in blind bubbles, and the blind comunity in general, erm, let's not talk about it's state. On that note, distant relationships might be more painful due to the lack of seing each other. So why searching for a blind person nearby. I don't want to exclude myself into blind circles.
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I don't, cuz I know you, but it came over like that to everyone else tbh. Anyways what ever. Other reason for me probably is that I just didn't have good experience with blind-blind relationships in general. Happy for ya if you made other experience, but meh, I don't see myself with a blind partner at this point. Call me weird I guess.
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Right? Like tell me how else to formulate it, sighted is my preference due to many reasons. If you interpret as me only wanting benefit from it then you just didn't get the point. But here too, I'm not much in blind bubbles and the blind comunity in general, let's not.
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Right? Like tell me how else to formulate it, sighted is my preference due to many reasons. If you interpret as me only wanting benefit from it then you just didn't get the point. But here too, I'm not much in blind bubbles and the blind comunity in general, let's not.
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I agree completely
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My partner is completely blind. I can still see light and that stuff, but she can't. And honestly, I think it doesn't mather if your partner is blind or not. Sure, some things are different and some things might be more challenging, but love is what mathers and not the sight remaining.
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My partner is completely blind. I can still see light and that stuff, but she can't. And honestly, I think it doesn't mather if your partner is blind or not. Sure, some things are different and some things might be more challenging, but love is what mathers and not the sight remaining.
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I know this might turn into a discussion now, but is it really the experience with a Blind partner or the person in general? Like, blindness is not the thing that causes relationships to break, at least, it should not. And if it does, I would really consider my attitude and thinking in general. Just saying.
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I don't, cuz I know you, but it came over like that to everyone else tbh. Anyways what ever. Other reason for me probably is that I just didn't have god experience with blind-blind relationships in general. Happy for ya if you made other experience, but meh, I don't see myself with a blind partner at this point. Call me weird I guess.
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Right? Like tell me how else to formulate it, sighted is my preference due to many reasons. If you interpret as me only wanting benefit from it then you just didn't get the point. But here too, I'm not much in blind bubbles and the blind comunity in general, let's not.
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I don't, cuz I know you, but it came over like that to everyone else tbh. Anyways what ever. Other reason for me probably is that I just didn't have god experience with blind-blind relationships in general. Happy for ya if you made other experience, but meh, I don't see myself with a blind partner at this point. Call me weird I guess.
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Right? Like tell me how else to formulate it, sighted is my preference due to many reasons. If you interpret as me only wanting benefit from it then you just didn't get the point. But here too, I'm not much in blind bubbles and the blind comunity in general, let's not.
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Both, probably. Surely it was a lot related to the person, well anyway not the topic, but looking back... Meh, of course it's not the blindness which breaks the relationship, but idk, as I said, I feel like the experience, lifestyle, vibe, etc, with a sighted person is, well, heh, better? I mean it fits me more imo. I mean it's a very subjective thing anyways but still.
-- (tonio2007):
I know this might turn into a discussion now, but is it really the experience with a Blind partner or the person in general? Like, blindness is not the thing that causes relationships to break, at least, it should not. And if it does, I would really consider my attitude and thinking in general. Just saying.
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I don't, cuz I know you, but it came over like that to everyone else tbh. Anyways what ever. Other reason for me probably is that I just didn't have god experience with blind-blind relationships in general. Happy for ya if you made other experience, but meh, I don't see myself with a blind partner at this point. Call me weird I guess.
-- (marchoffmann):
Right? Like tell me how else to formulate it, sighted is my preference due to many reasons. If you interpret as me only wanting benefit from it then you just didn't get the point. But here too, I'm not much in blind bubbles and the blind comunity in general, let's not.
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-- (tonio2007):
I know this might turn into a discussion now, but is it really the experience with a Blind partner or the person in general? Like, blindness is not the thing that causes relationships to break, at least, it should not. And if it does, I would really consider my attitude and thinking in general. Just saying.
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I don't, cuz I know you, but it came over like that to everyone else tbh. Anyways what ever. Other reason for me probably is that I just didn't have god experience with blind-blind relationships in general. Happy for ya if you made other experience, but meh, I don't see myself with a blind partner at this point. Call me weird I guess.
-- (marchoffmann):
Right? Like tell me how else to formulate it, sighted is my preference due to many reasons. If you interpret as me only wanting benefit from it then you just didn't get the point. But here too, I'm not much in blind bubbles and the blind comunity in general, let's not.
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Also this might be influenced by stuff but seeing all these blindly relationships, I'll call it out by its name, sorry, including my own in the past, which kinda led to nothing but, idk, messes, and yes again this could also be age etc, and then looking at other blind people with sighted partners just kinda supports my pov. Like, I can just way more identify with those. And again, not even the slightest idea how I should even get a blind partner at this point, but yeah besides that, everything that already has been said. I prefer independence.
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I must say that i don't agree on your point here. Independence is possible, especially if both blind partners are able to live independently. Look. I see that you don't hangout in those bubles of blindies, and i also don't do that that much anymore. But if you find someone that you love, that you trust and that person feels the same for you, its good. Sight just does not matter that much. And also, both can contribute to the knowledge of each other regarding independence if this is really a problem. See, I live allone for the most part and my Girlfriend does not and still, we manage to do stuff. Sure, when we move in together, we'll need to see how this works out, but its possible, thats for sure.
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Love is irrational. That is all.
I will say though. I haven't had an active relationship of my own (YET), but looking at the people who I've felt deeply for to the point of doing anything for them, I'd say there were 3 sighted individuals who fell into this category as opposed to only 1 blind person. I don't think that's a result of any inherrent inferiority of blind people, it's justthat there's a significantly smaller pool of blind girls around in general.
I will say though. I haven't had an active relationship of my own (YET), but looking at the people who I've felt deeply for to the point of doing anything for them, I'd say there were 3 sighted individuals who fell into this category as opposed to only 1 blind person. I don't think that's a result of any inherrent inferiority of blind people, it's justthat there's a significantly smaller pool of blind girls around in general.
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My take: I would never date someone who is blind. Period. This is one of the few things I chose not to disregard when choosing a partner.
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I'm sorry but how can you live like that? It's absurd. As well as not knowing how to use a washing machine. These are basic things. I'm not here to judge or anything, but this is really something that's not on my wishlist for the future.
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My wife is blind and I'm fine with that. She also has twenty-four-hour assistance, which I'm not so fond of, but something that has to be done. Since I can't use stove, oven, clothes washer and such, it's good we have sighted help for those things. Yeah, complete privacy is quite impossible but that's how it is.
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-- (thespyde):
My wife is blind and I'm fine with that. She also has twenty-four-hour assistance, which I'm not so fond of, but something that has to be done. Since I can't use stove, oven, clothes washer and such, it's good we have sighted help for those things. Yeah, complete privacy is quite impossible but that's how it is.
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I don't know but I get around fine by using public transport, even with blind individuals joining me. What's the problem?
-- (marchoffmann):
My post might be a little out of place, but generally speaking, unless love totaly loses it which I doubt, for me, having a fully blind partner wouldn't be benefitial at least. Not saying it's a standard directly, but in real life I'm totaly not around blind people, and as I can't drive a car and won't be for years ahead, it'd be practical having a sighted girlfriend who could do so, as paying taxis all the way to get around isn't the most handy and comfortable solution what so ever. Speaking of getting around, that'd be a thing too. About kitchen stuff, I don't worry to much. I've heard lots about blind girls being smart enough in the kitchens and household, but then again that's not one of the values I care about to much especially nowadays. But that'd probably be offtopic and for another time. Just wanted to state my opinion, if it ever comes to a relationship and how it might end up.
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-- (marchoffmann):
My post might be a little out of place, but generally speaking, unless love totaly loses it which I doubt, for me, having a fully blind partner wouldn't be benefitial at least. Not saying it's a standard directly, but in real life I'm totaly not around blind people, and as I can't drive a car and won't be for years ahead, it'd be practical having a sighted girlfriend who could do so, as paying taxis all the way to get around isn't the most handy and comfortable solution what so ever. Speaking of getting around, that'd be a thing too. About kitchen stuff, I don't worry to much. I've heard lots about blind girls being smart enough in the kitchens and household, but then again that's not one of the values I care about to much especially nowadays. But that'd probably be offtopic and for another time. Just wanted to state my opinion, if it ever comes to a relationship and how it might end up.
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